am i allowed to be frustrated?

dev and i were going to go to seattle for his bday (he was going to be there for 2 weeks and his bday is one of those weekends in october) and now, the cardinals will be in the playoffs around then, so he just cancelled his trip, is going home the weekend after hawaii and staying for a week (including his bday...) and then going to seattle straight from there for two weeks and wont be back till the second week of november.

he tells me this last night, and then is like so when are you comign to seattle now - and i was only going cause its his bday, and i dont want to be planning weekend trips just a month before the exam, and when i told him that he got mad that i wasnt coming - but he complains so much about travelling here and having to always pack for like 3 weeks, and that he is missing the first week of playoffs cause of hawaii - and now that im not going to seattle - when he changed the weekend!

im so frustrated, and i dont even want to get him anything for his bday. do i have to? he wont even be here for the week before and 3 weeks later? and he thinks birthdays are stupid anyway....

i thought writing this and venting would make me not so frustrated but it didnt really work....maybe i want a big bottle of that wine all to myself :)