julie's silly concerns
they aren't so silly. it would suck to decide to go for it and just end up fighting every weekend. and boyfriends suck the social life out of you - my experience. and koo agreed with me when we talked about it.
buuut. the flip side is . . . is it going to be weird now to be like ok, we're just friends. is he requesting the get together and talk time? are all the things you are worried about changing already changed? as anusha so delicately put it . . now that he's had a piece of you - is he going to be jealous regardless of official commitment status?
by the way - commitment is VERY scary, but it gets easier :) i don't know if i told you guys this at the time - but i technically cheated on edgar. i kissed this random guy like 4 days after edgar and i hooked up. it was a big fight that night and then again like 2 months ago because someone told edgar that the guy and i had made out like crazy (which is not true - one kiss) and he thought that i had cheated on him and lied to him. and it took me a while to not have a little part of me annoyed that i was expected to call him and hold his hand and not be flirty with other guys because i was his "girlfriend" - but now its normal :)
on the jealousy thing - george used to give me back rubs all the time. just for like 2 minutes at a time, no big deal. edgar HATED it. he hated that this gay server josh used to slap my butt and hug me. we didn't go out to random bars, so he never got to experience that joy. sometimes i think i compromised too much (no back rubs from george, josh stopped being touchy feely after one too many dirty looks from edgar) but . . . i think its worth it :)
buuut. the flip side is . . . is it going to be weird now to be like ok, we're just friends. is he requesting the get together and talk time? are all the things you are worried about changing already changed? as anusha so delicately put it . . now that he's had a piece of you - is he going to be jealous regardless of official commitment status?
by the way - commitment is VERY scary, but it gets easier :) i don't know if i told you guys this at the time - but i technically cheated on edgar. i kissed this random guy like 4 days after edgar and i hooked up. it was a big fight that night and then again like 2 months ago because someone told edgar that the guy and i had made out like crazy (which is not true - one kiss) and he thought that i had cheated on him and lied to him. and it took me a while to not have a little part of me annoyed that i was expected to call him and hold his hand and not be flirty with other guys because i was his "girlfriend" - but now its normal :)
on the jealousy thing - george used to give me back rubs all the time. just for like 2 minutes at a time, no big deal. edgar HATED it. he hated that this gay server josh used to slap my butt and hug me. we didn't go out to random bars, so he never got to experience that joy. sometimes i think i compromised too much (no back rubs from george, josh stopped being touchy feely after one too many dirty looks from edgar) but . . . i think its worth it :)
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