oh woe a tangled web we weave . . .

i think you should do whatever you want, but i'm going to play devil's advocate for a moment.

you don't hang out with joe because a bunch of friends are up (does he know that some are guys? he should know that - even if its just a subtle way of saying 'we aren't necessarily exclusive') you are attracted and would be crazy about spikey if not for the distance/fatherhood hurdles. so - you talk and make eyes at one another and kiss a little. and it happens next weekend again when you go home. a month from now, you are officially dating joe - at this point, you now have a secret. you don't have an official "start" date of your romance, so you don't have a line that you cross between oh, when i kissed a boy that day it was ok, but the day after that it was 'cheating' if joe were to know, he'd be hurt.

so - i think what it boils down to is how much do you care about joe and how little do you care about spikey? what if spikey "thinks you have a boyfriend" - is that somehow ruining your big chance with him? does kissing him this weekend mean so much that not doing so would make you sad? is the potential for a guilty conscience about joe that little that its within the realm of acceptable risk? i don't mean to rain on your parade, but if you think you and joe are going to continue and get more serious - i don't think a make out session with spikey this weekend is called for. i also think joe would have no fun watching you and jackie flirt with strangers and make inside jokes he's not a part of - so leave him home.