everyone's different
i think the teams of adults that are checking in on julia constantly - her mom, soon her foster parents, the organizers, the psychologists - should be aware of whether she is properly dealing with the lose of her mom.
with jackie - everyone is different. and no one is perfect. jackie isn't the guru of strength and properly dealing with personal relationships. not to say i am, or anyone is for that matter. how we are raised, who is there for us to trust and teach us - it all shapes who we eventually become. to say that because jackie was taught at any early age that life can be really hard and to work through it, she is a stronger and better person than me (or any of us) who had two loving parents and a very stable family life is ridiculous.
julie is not the person who is going to have the final stay on who julia becomes. if the program is doing its job right, they are putting more emphasis on her budding relationship with her foster parents (has she met them?) and NOT on julie. julie should be like what her neighbor was for her (and what my paino teacher was for me) an adult figure who is her friend and never has to be the person who says no.
i just explained the situation to courtney - who is the oldest of three kids and lost her dad to cancer at 16. she understands where jackie is coming from - which puts into question whether all of us with as close to perfect childhoods as you can get can never actually understand what julia is going to go through when she loses her mom.
with jackie - everyone is different. and no one is perfect. jackie isn't the guru of strength and properly dealing with personal relationships. not to say i am, or anyone is for that matter. how we are raised, who is there for us to trust and teach us - it all shapes who we eventually become. to say that because jackie was taught at any early age that life can be really hard and to work through it, she is a stronger and better person than me (or any of us) who had two loving parents and a very stable family life is ridiculous.
julie is not the person who is going to have the final stay on who julia becomes. if the program is doing its job right, they are putting more emphasis on her budding relationship with her foster parents (has she met them?) and NOT on julie. julie should be like what her neighbor was for her (and what my paino teacher was for me) an adult figure who is her friend and never has to be the person who says no.
i just explained the situation to courtney - who is the oldest of three kids and lost her dad to cancer at 16. she understands where jackie is coming from - which puts into question whether all of us with as close to perfect childhoods as you can get can never actually understand what julia is going to go through when she loses her mom.
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