personal choice
I dont think its a trend that is going to change throughout the entire population; i think it needs to be a personal choice. i do agree with this statement though:
"My mother's always told me you can't be the best career woman and the best mother at the same time,"
I dont think it has to be so absolute and I think many women are able to balance it but I think that even if they are able to balance it, they arent the "best" at either one. like my aunt for instance - if she wasnt trying to be a good mother, she could be so much farther/better at her job, and vice versa - if she didnt spend so much time at her job, she would be able to be home when the kids were home, take them to more activities, etc.
I think everyone has to decide what is important to them - and i dont think that has anything to do with going to an ivy league school.
not that i can influence/change your opinion - but jules, i think id be fair for this to bother you if it was yourself, or if it was someone like jackie who adamantly tells you now that i dont want ot be a stay at home mom and i want to work, and if you see her change when she has kids it could bother you - but if someone were happier staying at home, why work in a job you are unhappy with? if you had the option of working in recruiting or staying at home and taking up a hobby that you actually liked (even if 10 years from now that meant raising your children), i dont think there would be anything wrong with that...
"My mother's always told me you can't be the best career woman and the best mother at the same time,"
I dont think it has to be so absolute and I think many women are able to balance it but I think that even if they are able to balance it, they arent the "best" at either one. like my aunt for instance - if she wasnt trying to be a good mother, she could be so much farther/better at her job, and vice versa - if she didnt spend so much time at her job, she would be able to be home when the kids were home, take them to more activities, etc.
I think everyone has to decide what is important to them - and i dont think that has anything to do with going to an ivy league school.
not that i can influence/change your opinion - but jules, i think id be fair for this to bother you if it was yourself, or if it was someone like jackie who adamantly tells you now that i dont want ot be a stay at home mom and i want to work, and if you see her change when she has kids it could bother you - but if someone were happier staying at home, why work in a job you are unhappy with? if you had the option of working in recruiting or staying at home and taking up a hobby that you actually liked (even if 10 years from now that meant raising your children), i dont think there would be anything wrong with that...
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